Stop telling lgbt+ youth that they have to come out to their parents.
Stop telling lgbt+ youth that their parents will be sure to come around and accept them.
My instinct when I realised my queerness was that I could never tell my parents, because they would never accept me, and we’d all be better off with them not knowing.
I heard so much to the contrary that I felt I had no option but to tell them, but I wasn’t too worried, because every narrative I saw assured me that it would be okay because we’d talk it through and they’d accept me.
I told them, and unsurprisingly, two years later, they are no closer to accepting me, or talking to me about it. And I’m not at all convinced that things wouldn’t be better for me if I’d never told them in the first place.
You are not obligated to come out to anyone. You know your parents best, trust your own judgement about how they will react, not blanket statements made by people who’ve never met them.